I’ll say it again:
Don’t focus on your problems. Focus on the solutions.
I know that if you were asked to talk about the issues that you’re going through (or gone through) in your life, you would have a lot to say. I’ve a lot to say myself.
This is because there’s no one on this planet who doesn’t have one or two things they are going through in their lives every day.
We all have something to say. Having a problem is not a licence for you to be moody or downcast. You must not allow your problems to weigh you down no matter what.
So, instead of just sitting and looking moody, rise up, and find solution to your problems. Stop focusing on your problems. Focus on the solutions. This is a powerful mindset shift that works.
You can’t just sit and watch your problems aggravate.
Take a step. Make a move.
It’s true that good solutions don’t come easy. And most times, they are closer than we think if we focus on them instead.
Sometimes its takes time before you find a solution but it’s there. And other times, you don’t even have to look far before you find your solution.
That’s why its been said that problems are meant to be solved or dealt with. When you’ve questions, you look for answers.
Problems are meant to be solved and not something to be moody over.
When you keep looking at your problems without thinking of the solutions to it, you’ll remain in it. Nothing will change because you’re not taking any steps. All you do is think, think, and think.
Thinking don’t solve problems no matter how long you do it.
Thinking about your problems will stop you from growing. You won’t be able to do things confidently. You’ll just be moody all day.
You need to leave your comfort zone so as to break free from your problems. You need to find answers to whatever situation you’re going through at the moment.
You need to tell yourself that you aren’t a failure. That you’re born to reign. That you’re born to win. And so therefore, problems are not your portion. You need to affirm this every day. All the time.
Let me share this little experience with you.
On a particular Thursday morning, as at 7:30 am, I was really moody. My face was bitter. I had given up. I was so confused.
Have you ever felt like opting out of your relationship just because of what you’re going through that even has nothing to do with the relationship?
That was how I felt that very morning. I just didn’t want to be with anyone. I just wanted to be alone.
Just because I thought that thinking and moodiness would solve my problems. I never knew that I was hurting myself. And the “reward” of my thinking was just going to cause me nothing but a severe headache.
Thank goodness for my man that supported me. The one I love so much that came to my rescue. I’m not saying this to brag or to make you feel sad. This is exactly how I feel about him.
He told me never to think again. That it wasn’t going to solve anything.
He asked me to gather myself together. Be strong and never think about my present situation again. He asked me to always look at my future because he believes that all will be well. And he wants me to also believe that too.
While he was talking to me, it was as if everything he was saying wasn’t entering my ears even when I heard him clearly. It was just that I wasn’t in my right frame of mind. I had given up.
But my baby never left me for a second neither did he leave me for once. He was always encouraging me to do what I know how to do best. That I might not see the results of what I was doing now, but I’ll surely see them.
Not everyone has this kind of support system in place.
I know this to be true because I’ve been there before. To every woman out there with one problems or the other, don’t give up. Don’t focus on your problems or the situations around you. Instead, focus on the solution.
A lot of times, those problems are not even problems at all. You just have to look above them and focus on the solutions.
Be bold. Be confident. Be brave. You can do more than you think you can do.
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